| Location | Halifax |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Still Birth |
| Date of Birth | 05/03/2006 |
| Date of Death | 05/03/2006 |
| Visitors | 2,877 since 09/02/2008 |
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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Benjamin Comer who was born asleep on March 05, 2006. We will remember him forever.
I was overjoyed when I found out I was pregnant with you Benjamin but also nervous and worried because I had miscarried earlier in the year. As things progressed I became more at ease. At the 20 week scan you was been awkward and wouldn't let the doctor see everything they needed so we had to go back but still you decided to play hide and seek. Eventually she managed to get everything they needed and they told me you were fine and that you were a little boy - I was sure you was a girl but I didn't mind. The worry returned when I started bleeding at 24 weeks and was in hospital. Luckily you were fine and it turned out to be a urine infection. As things progressed I couldn't wait for you to be here. We'd been given a date for you to be born by cesearean on 9th March - 9 days before you were due.
On 4th March I was still working and mentioned I hadn't felt you moving as much as normal. I went home and managed to find your heartbeat or so I thought, I now know it must of been my own that I found. I had been getting pains throughout the day and overnight they became worse. On Sunday 5th March we went into hospital. I was excited that you were on your way and I'd be holding you soon.
In hospital the midwife came to find your heartbeat but couldn't and when another midwife came to find it and couldn't I knew there was something wrong. A scan revealed that you had died. It was decided that the cesearean would be done as soon as possible. While waiting in the hospital room I was sure I felt you move but I knew deep down that I hadn't.
Your daddy couldn't bare to be at the birth but that wasn't because he didn't love you it was because it wasn't meant to be like this and he wasn't sure he could cope. Instead your nana came with us. I decided to wait before I saw you, I didn't want to see you straight away because I wanted to be alone with you. I didn't want all those people there when I held you in my arms.
You were born at 7.16pm weighing 7lb 1oz. Your nana told me you looked just like your big brother Kieran. Everything after that kinda passed in a blur. Eventually you got to be with your mummy and daddy. Nana was right you looked just like Kieran you were beautiful. I held you for a little while and wished so much that you would open your eyes, let out a little cry. But it was never to be. We handed you over to the midwife who washed and dressed you. I saw you again the next day and said goodbye. We had lots of tests done but we never found out why you died. The most likely reason was a blood clot that stopped oxygen getting to you.
We decided to have you cremated and began arranging your funeral. We decided to play the song Written In The Stars by Westlife at the beginning because the lyrics are beautiful and it reminded me of our time together.
You then had a lovely service and a poem was read for you that I had found.
Though your feet never got to walk,
Your delicate footprints will always be etched in my soul.
Though your eyes never got to weep,
Your silver tears will always haunt my dreams.
Though your lungs never got to fill,
Your undrawn breath will always drift in my breast.
Though your fingers never got to reach,
Your golden touch will always be imprinted on my palm.
Though your lips never got to move,
Your silent words will always echo in my mind.
Though your heart never got to love,
Your beautiful spirit will always be cradled in my arms.
At the end of the service we played All Time Love by Will Young. I was looking at your pictures in hospital and looking through your memory box that the lovely midwife Karen had done for you when this song came on.
We went outside and let a balloon go for you. It was a blue love heart which was inscripted with a message for you:
Benjamin
Love You Always
Mummy Daddy
Courtney and Kieran
xXx
The following day your sister Courtney and brother Kieran let a balloon go to say goodbye to you. We have since found out due to another miscarriage in September 2007 that I have PCOS so that could have been another factor in you death and reason for my miscarriages.
Miss you loads my angel
Love Mummy xXx
Also visit Benjamins other special place:
http:// benjamin-comer.memory-of.com/
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I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.
"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
when your baby's not with you?"
"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."
"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.
"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say..."
We go to earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear,
My mummy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mum,
Who had so much love for me
I learned my lessons very quickly
My mummy set me free.
I miss my mummy oh so much
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillows were I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear
Mummy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here."
"So you see my dear sweet ones,
Your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home
And this is where they'll stay."
"They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lessons through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start.
Though some on earth may not realize
You are a mother.
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one
hi little man
hope your great nanna and grandad are looking after you. And that you are keeping them on there toes. R.I.P xxx
Happy Birthday In Heaven - by Winnie Lovett
"Happy Birthday Ben "
It's sure to be the best one yet,
Though you left us here behind.
Did you think that we'd forget?
Your cake this year, will surely be,
A beauty to behold.
With the icing made of Silver,
And the candles made of Gold.
Yes, your birthday in Heaven,
Will be such a grand affair.
And I know you'll look so lovely,
With a halo in your hair.
The Angels will come from everywhere,
To sing your birthday song.
And I know they'll be so happy,
That you've joined, God's Happy Throng.
No I can't send a card this year,
Or give a gift so fine.
So I'll just send a special prayer,
To that wonderful Son of yours.
Copyright of Winnie Lovett
OH LITTLE ONE
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Does Heaven have a Christmas tree for the little girls & boys
Too far away for Santa`s sleigh to reach with treats and toys?
A tree that`s hung with moonbeams,stars and real,shining angel hair
For the precious little children who all live in Heaven care ?
And are you filled with wonder at it`s branches,all aglow
With the tears of those who miss you on this earth,far down below?
For we hope and pray you`re playing with the angels,having fun
But please don`t forget,we love you
Happy Christmas,Little One
In a baby castle, just beyond your eye,
Your baby plays with angel toys that money cannot buy.
Who are you to wish him back into this world of strife,
No, play on your baby, they'll have eternal life.
At night when all is silent and sleep forsakes your eyes,
You'll hear their tiny footsteps come running to your side
Their little hands caress you so tenderly and sweet,
You'll breathe a prayer and close your eyes and embrace them in your sleep.
Now you have a treasure that you rate above all others
You have known true glory,
You are still their mother.
Precious Child by Karen Taylor Good
In my dreams, you are alive and well
Precious child, precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart, there is hope
'Cause you are with me still
In my heart, you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
In my plans, I was the first to leave
Precious child, precious child
But in this world, I was left here to grieve
Precious child, my precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart there is hope
And you are with me still
In my heart you live on
Always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon,
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
God knows I want to hold you,
See you, touch you
And maybe there's a heaven
And someday I will again
Please know you are not forgotten until then
In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
Born Asleep - by Unknown Author
“Born Asleep" - such a beautiful phrase,
Always touches me to the core.
The broken cries of a Mother's heart
When it just can't take anymore.
I open my heart, one Mum to another,
So you never lose your hope,
That although it gets no easier,
I promise you'll learn to cope.
Remember your Angel is sleeping
In a world much kinder than ours
And will always be there to hold your hand
Even in your darkest hours.
My own little Angel will keep an eye,
And play with yours in their park.
But you must find your love and strength,
And feed your own little spark.
You'll never be alone my friend,
I will always understand.
If the tides loom up to swallow you,
Just reach out and grab my hand.
God called your name so gently,
That only you could hear.
No one heard the footsteps,
Of angels drawing near.
Softly from the shadows
There came a gentle call,
You closed your eyes and went to sleep,
And quietly left us all.
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With Love x
Last night at bedtime I looked out
To say goodnight to you,
And out the window through the clouds
A star came shining through.
It sparkled and it twinkled
Like a precious diamond stone,
It looked as if it winked at me
And I felt less alone.
On earth we can see starlight
Even if the star has gone,
And though you are not with me
Your light still does shine on.
So though I cannot see your face
Or your smile so bright,
I'll look to heaven, see a star
And whisper your goodnight.
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Nite nite angel xxx
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★Sweet dreams★
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